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  How often do "Jehovah's Witness" related thoughts consume your life?

  by free2beme in

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  i can honestly say, that several days and even weeks can go by, without me thinking about the witnesses.

  i come here and skip the witness related topics, unless they mention something about changes or new understanding.

  i just do not put a lot of focus on them, at this point in my life.

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  sweet pea

  Thanks Crumps, we will be taking you up on that offer. See you on the 18th!
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  the things that are wrong with being a JW

  by alanv in

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  2. experiences

  hi everybody, i am a newbe to the forum and have been faded from the borg for about 15 years.

  i just wanted to say how good it is to read all your personal experiences about how you have been able to get free from the wts.

  i have just read the post from jwfacts.

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  sweet pea

  Welcome to the forum Alan V - what made you start to post?
  
  Looking forward to hearing your story...
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  How often do "Jehovah's Witness" related thoughts consume your life?

  by free2beme in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i can honestly say, that several days and even weeks can go by, without me thinking about the witnesses.

  i come here and skip the witness related topics, unless they mention something about changes or new understanding.

  i just do not put a lot of focus on them, at this point in my life.

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  sweet pea

  freetobeme - you give me hope!! Thank you.
  
  Right now the thoughts consume me throughout the day, every day. If I come to JWD and/or read anything JW related (and I haven't quite read everything I want to yet) it gets worse.
  
  The deafening silence of the phone/doorbell is a constant reminder of the many friends I have lost.
  
  I do know that time will heal and new relationships take time to develop and there is no shortcut to this, other than maybe leaving JWD/JW related book alone!
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  Is this the correct place for an introduction??

  by student1 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  long time lurker from the uk... making my first post ooh scary...the reason posting now is that i need some advice on talking to my jw family and friends, without their walls coming up!

  having read this forum for a good year, you all seem to be expert linguists!

  i want to be like an indiana jones type character and slip through the sliding door in to the tomb (my sisters brain!

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  sweet pea

  Welcome from a fellow UK-er. So lovely to have you here.
  
  Don't do what I did and tell too much, too quick, I regret it and have practically had the door shut very loudly and quickly on me from all of my so called 'friends' of over 30 years. I can't help them now.
  
  Get reading - I'm in the middle of 'Fearless Love' by Ann Sanderson - it's an excellent book by a Scot - it may give you some ideas.
  
  Also check out 'Opening The Closed Mind' on www.freeminds.org.
  
  From fellow posters and ex-JW friends who I have since met up with, the best advice is plant small seeds regularly, one at a time. Scriptures that don't quite add up (start reading a NIV or NLT translation of the bible - its interesting to see how the society has come up with what is essentially their own bible to support their 'unique' doctrines) can be a good place to start. The great crowd standing before the throne in heaven/the dead coming to life AFTER the thousand years/Thomas saying to Jesus "My Lord and My God' etc.
  
  All the best, this may take years, on the other hand, the tipping point could be months away.....
  
  
  Keep us updated, it's always great to hear of progress in even the smallest of ways.
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  Crumpet withdrawl

  by Vernon Williams in

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  i have not noticed any posts from crumpet.

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  what gives?.

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  sweet pea

  Crumpet, well done girl, knew you could do it!!
  
  This board is definitely not the same without your wonderful presence.
  
  We miss you.
  
  Keep in touch.
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  A lurker says hello

  by Madame in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  r. f. wondered how many lurkers there are on the board.

  i don't know the answer, but i will admit that i since a few years am one of them.

  i read here almost every day.. like many others here i am an ex-jw, left the organisation about 25 years ago and never regretted it.. .

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  sweet pea

  Welcome - looking forward to hearing your story.
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  Why don't Lurkers Post?

  by sweet pea in

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  when i came to the realisation that my whole religious upbringing was in question and i was led to this site, i immediately wanted to get involved - i could see that there was a lot of caring, spiritual people here that had created an amazing community and i wanted to be a part of that community (to release some pent up feelings and to maybe help others in some way) but having read that many of you guys lurked for months and in some cases years before you finally posted - i'm intrigued as to why?????

  was it selfishness - couldn't bring yourself to commit and be a part of the community, you were just content to observe?

  was it laziness?

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  sweet pea

  When I came to the realisation that my whole religious upbringing was in question and I was led to this site, I immediately wanted to get involved - I could see that there was a lot of caring, spiritual people here that had created an amazing community and I wanted to be a part of that community (to release some pent up feelings and to maybe help others in some way) but having read that many of you guys lurked for months and in some cases years before you finally posted - I'm intrigued as to why?????
  
  Was it selfishness - couldn't bring yourself to commit and be a part of the community, you were just content to observe?
  
  Was it laziness?
  
  Was it fear?
  
  Were you not ready to admit you'd reached a turning point?
  
  There must have been moments where you really wanted to put your tuppence worth in - what stopped you?
  
  Is there a lurker hierarchy - did you look without registering, did you register but never post, did you post maybe once and then disappear?
  
  Over to you guys.
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  Update - advice please?

  by sweet pea in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so, it has come to my attention that my jw girlfriends have been gossiping in that great inimitable jw way - they seem to believe that i am attending an alpha course and going to a new church (as if?).

  obviously one of my parents has spilled some baked beans and been indiscreet (just like that old faithful and not so discreet, slave....).

  not sure what will happen next but wondering where i stand with regards to any elders that were to get wind of this?

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  Thank you for the reminder LL
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  Great Books Thread

  by Open mind in

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  what are the top 5 books you would either recommend and/or have had the greatest influence on you?

  (if you only want to mention one or two that's fine as well.).

  if you feel like it, please briefly tell us why.

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  sweet pea

  Awaken The Giant Within - Anthony Robbins (anything you want to do is possible, yes I've done the hot coals walk!)
  
  Mutant Message From Down Under (very spiritual, thought provoking, read it in an hour)
  
  Perfume - Patrick Suskind (bizarre, not seen the film as the book was too amazing to spoil)
  
  Love In The Time of Cholera - Gabriel Garcia Marquez (great love story)
  
  In Search of Christian Freedom (sorry, know you didn't want this one but it's too important to me)
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  Update - advice please?

  by sweet pea in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so, it has come to my attention that my jw girlfriends have been gossiping in that great inimitable jw way - they seem to believe that i am attending an alpha course and going to a new church (as if?).

  obviously one of my parents has spilled some baked beans and been indiscreet (just like that old faithful and not so discreet, slave....).

  not sure what will happen next but wondering where i stand with regards to any elders that were to get wind of this?

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  sweet pea

  It turns out that an ex-jw posted a private email (discussing my current situation) he received on an ex-jw website (not this one). This was subsequently discovered by one of my jw friends (naughty, naughty, he was looking at an 'apostate' website - I wonder how his wife/family/friends/congregation feel about that....) and he has obviously passed the information on and that is why the 'friends' are gossiping. Not sure what will happen next.
  
  To all you newbies/lurkers: I have learned a big lesson from this - be EXTREMELY CAREFUL what you say and to whom and don't ever put anything down in writing unless you are prepared for the whole world to see it and really don't care about the consequences.